Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

Analyze Tawwab’s narrative style and general approach to the subject of boundaries. How do certain elements of the text—e.g., anecdotes, references to other sources, Tawwab’s personal experiences—affect the presentation of the text? Do you find Tawwab’s approach effective? Why or why not?

Choose one area of life (e.g., romantic relationships, family, friendships, or the workplace) and evaluate Tawwab’s claims about how to set boundaries in this specific area. What kinds of issues could boundaries help to solve, and how does she propose people set them? What other areas and/or dilemmas has she not addressed? How would you apply her strategies to those areas?

Explore the relationship between boundaries and the cultivation of self-care. What forms of self-care help you the most in setting boundaries and keeping them? How could you incorporate more self-care into your day-to-day routine and relationships?

What does Tawwab claim is the most frequently-violated type of boundary? According to her, what are some strategies for fixing this issue? Which strategies would you use?

Choose one or two insights from the book that you found especially important. Why did you find them important and/or helpful? How do you plan to implement these insights in your own life?

Tawwab emphasizes how people’s choices inform their relationships and she urges the reader to consider how they are allowing others to ignore their preferences or boundaries. Do you agree or disagree with her approach? Explain your stance.

The author speaks about the central role of childhood experiences in shaping the pattern of boundary-setting (or lack thereof) in adulthood. What kinds of childhood experiences have influenced your own approach to boundaries? What other formative experiences, either as a child or as an adult, have played a role? What changes would you like to make to these patterns, and why?

What communication strategies does Tawwab recommend for boundary-setting in relationships? Which strategies do you believe are the most effective for you, and why?