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Vuong’s poem “Kissing in Vietnamese” makes specific, direct references to America’s military intervention in Vietnam that took place during the 1960s and 70s. The Vietnam war was both a civil war, in which Americans took sides with the anti-communist South against the pro-communist North, and a proxy war between Russia and the US in their ongoing “cold war.” Thus, two global superpowers’ geo-political interests in Southeast Asia became the catalyst for catastrophic destruction visited on a population half a world away in an effort to dictate their political and economic system. 3.8 million Vietnamese were killed in the protracted carnage—roughly 12-13% of their population at the time—along with 58,000 American soldiers and as many as 2.5 million deaths in neighboring Cambodia where the genocidal Khmer Rouge regime took control as a direct result of American bombing there.
The conflict has come to represent the emergence of modern warfare in areas technological, strategic, and in terms of its sheer brutality. Since the goal of the United States was not to conquer North Vietnam but rather to ensure the survival of the South Vietnamese government, they could not measure progress in the amount of territory seized and held. It was decided that victory in battle would be determined by the number of enemy combatants killed.
However, since the North Vietnamese military were waging guerilla warfare where any person of any age, gender or dress could be enlisted to resist the incursion, it was difficult to know just which of the dead were the enemy. Civilians were often listed as enemy dead, and US soldiers began to perceive the whole population of Vietnam as their enemy to be destroyed. Leadership encouraged this idea. The day before the My Lai massacre where about 500 villagers—mostly women, children, and the elderly—were tortured, raped, and killed by US troops, Capt. Ernest Medina told his soldiers, “There are no innocent civilians in this area,” and that the enemy was, “Anybody that is running away from us, hiding from us, or appears to be the enemy.” Atrocities became commonplace under these conditions.
Specific weapons and war tactics provided concrete ways that the history of the Vietnam War “never ended” (Line 19). The US dropped more than 350,000 tons of napalm weapons on the country in fire bombings that caused widespread disfigurement among the survivors. All told, the United States dropped 8 million tons of bombs in Indochina between 1962 and 1973, about double the amount dropped by all warring nations involved in World War II. Vietnam spent many years rebuilding their country after this barrage of destruction.
Also of note, Agent Orange was a program to spread more than twenty million gallons of defoliant chemicals across Vietnam to clear the forest that hid Viet Cong encampments. It is estimated that three out of four million people who were sprayed with Agent Orange chemicals became ill from the exposure and one-quarter of them suffered consequences such as permanent disability, fatal illness or passing on birth defects to their children.
In his poem, “Kissing in Vietnamese” the speaker describes or speculates on his grandmother’s experience, in which the bombs fall outside her kitchen window. For civilians, no place was safe. Any Vietnamese could be cut down at any second. The daily routines of life could turn tragic without warning.
One of the major themes of “Kissing in Vietnamese” is that of ongoing trauma, how a war changes a person’s outlook permanently. Vuong has said in interviews that the experience of being a refugee does not end when a person or family leaves the refugee camp or resettles in a new country. Vuong insists on still being identified as a refugee.
Once Saigon fell, Vuong’s family split apart. His grandparents put his mother and her sisters in orphanages to keep them safe, and they were not reunited for several years. Vuong’s mother gave birth to him when she was eighteen and was raising him while working at a hair salon. Soon though, the police discovered she was half-American, which violated the rules of employment, so they were forced to flee. The half-American, half-Vietnamese children of Vuong’s grandparents were not welcome in the new Socialist Republic of Vietnam. They lived for nine months in a Philippine refugee camp before eventually settling in the United States.
Ocean Vuong’s first book, Night Sky with Exit Wounds uses for its cover the photo of his mother and aunt holding a very young Ocean Vuong between them while they pose on the cot of their refugee camp. Vuong has said in interviews that his family had to give up a day’s worth of their food rations—three cups of rice—to pay for the photo. It was that important for them to have a record of themselves to remember.
After settling in Hartford, Connecticut, Vuong’s family experienced many common refugee challenges. While Vuong went to an American school from an early age, and he eventually became a teacher of English, his mother and grandmother remained illiterate. For the remainder of her life, Vuong’s mother worked in a nail salon, providing manicures and pedicures for Americans, speaking predominantly Vietnamese.
Many of Vuong’s poems explore the Vietnamese refugee experience. Some, like “Aubade with Burning City” (2014) retell stories his grandmother tells him about the war, recounting how the fall of Saigon was originally signaled by the radio playing American Christmas music. Other poems focus more on Vuong’s own experience living as a person of two cultures in America, still feeling the aftereffects of the war. “Kissing in Vietnamese” is a clear example of this type of poem, as it documents the kind of experience that sons and daughters of those who lived through the war could recognize. Vuong’s other poems focus on queer identity, and the role of the body in history, culture, politics, and spirituality.
Vuong’s second book of poetry, Time is a Mother (2022) is a tribute to his mother and his grief at losing her. His first novel, On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous (2019), also explores the protagonist’s relationship with his mother via a lengthy letter the main character writes even though he knows his mother can never read it. It is a poignant portrayal of family love and the refugee experience.
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